Learn how to forgive and not forget

Don’t hold grudges. But still keep the score.

The act of forgiveness doesn’t mean you forget what happened. We are still accountable. Some consequences last a lifetime.

Forgiveness is about closure. Forgive yourself and keep moving, but don’t block out what you experienced and don’t pretend it didn’t happen.

Don’t be a sucker for punishment. Stop associating with nasty and selfish people.

Forgive, don’t hold a grudge, and remember.

Happiness Compounders

“Life really does begin at forty. Up until then, you are just doing research.”

Carl Jung

The older I get the more I appreciate what I have.

Family, old friends, gratefulness and physical health are happiness compounders that kick-in later in life

The personality of the predictor

People do not seem to realize that their opinion of the world is also a confession of character.

Emerson

Predictions on how 2021 will unfold in politics. COVID-19, and the economy will tell you more about the person pontificating than the prediction itself.

New level unlock

Once you’ve tasted something like power, leadership, relationships with people who push you and make you grow, a risk with high returns, endorphin kicks – it’s hard to go back. You’ve unlocked a new level in the game and the only way is up and over.

Chest pounders

Braggadocio, big egos and little men who pound their chests accomplish a lot in a small amount of time, but the aftermath is burned bridges, one-way doors and a transactional culture. The last 4 years of American politics is a good example of how damaging this type of high octane ego fueled leadership can be. It’s the same for companies and communities.

Don’t just avoid working with chest pounders, flee from them. It’s not worth it. When they flame out, they push the ejection button without you, leaving you to go down in flames. Their stain rubs off on you.

Compassion, kindness and soft power take time and translates into sustainability, rich journeys and life long bonds. Be patient, laugh and work with people who share the same values. Choose wisely, it’s worth it. 

Ithaka

My favorite line:

But don’t hurry the journey at all.
Better if it lasts for years,
so you’re old by the time you reach the island,
wealthy with all you’ve gained on the way,
not expecting Ithaka to make you rich.

Enjoy this timeless advice.

Ithaka
BY C. P. CAVAFY
TRANSLATED BY EDMUND KEELEY


As you set out for Ithaka
hope your road is a long one,
full of adventure, full of discovery.
Laistrygonians, Cyclops,
angry Poseidon—don’t be afraid of them:
you’ll never find things like that on your way
as long as you keep your thoughts raised high,
as long as a rare excitement
stirs your spirit and your body.
Laistrygonians, Cyclops,
wild Poseidon—you won’t encounter them
unless you bring them along inside your soul,
unless your soul sets them up in front of you.

Hope your road is a long one.
May there be many summer mornings when,
with what pleasure, what joy,
you enter harbors you’re seeing for the first time;
may you stop at Phoenician trading stations
to buy fine things,
mother of pearl and coral, amber and ebony,
sensual perfume of every kind—
as many sensual perfumes as you can;
and may you visit many Egyptian cities
to learn and go on learning from their scholars.

Keep Ithaka always in your mind.
Arriving there is what you’re destined for.
But don’t hurry the journey at all.
Better if it lasts for years,
so you’re old by the time you reach the island,
wealthy with all you’ve gained on the way,
not expecting Ithaka to make you rich.

Ithaka gave you the marvelous journey.
Without her you wouldn’t have set out.
She has nothing left to give you now.

And if you find her poor, Ithaka won’t have fooled you.
Wise as you will have become, so full of experience,
you’ll have understood by then what these Ithakas mean.

Oh, I could that…

“Someone once asked me why McDonald’s is so successful.

I said ‘our bathrooms are always clean.’ ‘Sure,’ he said, ‘But that’s easy.’

‘Well,’ I replied, ‘Are your bathrooms clean?’”

Ray Kroc

Have you ever thought about buying something and then seen the price and thought – “Wow, that’s way too expensive, I could just make that myself!”. You then get a life lesson about how difficult and expensive it is to build it yourself. After some struggles and false starts you end up paying full price with a deeper appreciation for what you are buying.

Everything looks simple easy until we try to replicate it.

Simplicity is the product of discipline, complexity and persistence.

Set your own agenda

“Think for yourself, or others will think for you without thinking of you.”

Henry David Thoreau

“Be the change you wish to see in the world”

Mahatma Gandhi

Say no to stuff that doesn’t bring you joy.

Say yes to people who align with your values.

Flee from self absorbed, and selfish people when your orbits intersect.

Work at places that are part of your bigger plan.

If you drift, then others will drag you along.

Set your own course and back yourself.