You mind can’t roam free when it’s cluttered. A cluttered mind is exhausting and will trip you up and slow you down.
Maybe it’s an old to do list, a bill you need to pay, an unread book sitting on your bedside table, a tough conversation, a phone call that needs to be returned.
All this stuff clutters up your mind and sucks energy. Don’t let it fester and take up space. Get it done or let it go.
You know when you are in the flow. Decisions feel like perfectly paired joints locking together. Opportunities in the form of people, ideas and things uncloak. You don’t look back or forward, there is only now. Recognize and remember the flow feeling. You’ll know it when you feel it.
The bad news: See all the trauma out there? Conflicts around the world, suffering, spineless politicians, nasty comments on the web, fake news, propaganda, greed in business or selfishness close to home. The bad news is that all that stuff is a reflection of you. All the trauma ‘out there’ is a reflection of what’s ‘inside you’. Everything. 😕
The good news? Change yourself and you change the world. Every time something out there pisses you off, makes you angry, guilty or sad – that’s the cue to look inward and start the work. It takes discipline to look inward. It’s easier to blame others, retreat or get angry. Practice every day. 😌
Humility is the key to new ideas. Smart humble people change their minds all the time. Being smart is not enough if pride is a blocker.
Set your own agenda. It creates consistency for others and is habit forming. If you aren’t on your own agenda then you are on someone else’s. Stick to your plan.
You’ll find yourself saying no more than yes…that means it’s working.
Be careful of maybes. A quick no is better than a slow maybe and clears the way for a yes.
Have you ever visited a place or spent time with a friend where you leave feeling invigorated and energized? Next time take a pause and reverse the flow. Ask yourself what you can offer instead of what you can take away. If it’s a place then be aware of how you keep it beautiful and pristine. If it’s a friend remember to ask how you can help or just keep quiet and listen.
Places and people that are permanently sucked on wither away, feel desolate and are tired. You can feel this with certain national parks. Well used parks are used over and over again and there’s zero stewardship going on. It’s super transactional. Take take take. Me me me.
Places and people have great energy because they are stewarded over time. It’s a give and take relationship. Places feel sacred for a reason. Giving is more energizing than taking.
Physical pilgrimages are important. I used to think that viewing something digitally was enough and that being there physically didn’t matter, but I’ve learned through traveling that being there physically can accelerate a connection to people and places.
Smells, sounds, people and places all trigger feelings that should be acknowledged and processed. There are places where the energy is palpable like airport arrival halls, Yosemite National Park or returning to the town I was born. In other places the energy needs to be stewarded, nurtured or repaired..maybe it’s been drained or sucked on by too many people or it’s been a place of suffering or pain. It’s hard to feel it without physically being there.
It can’t be experienced remotely via digital doors like Facebook, FaceTime and Skype. Digital connections build relationships and we are more compassionate and connected because of them, but physically being in the place is a different level. It’s about resonating with the frequency of the place and in turn having it resonate with you.
Carve out the time and travel. It stimulates growth in you, and in the people and places you visit.