Think about all the political anger and outrage that we direct at a politician. What if we focused all that energy on electing someone better.
Imagine if all the @replies, retweets, shares and Facebook comments about the faux outrage of the day were redirected to amplifying good works and inspiring leaders.
Trolls feed off outrage. Their battery packs are recharged with anger and vitriol. Imagine these monsters standing on the top of a mountain in the middle of raging storm and holding a lightning conductor. The more lightning strikes they get hit with, the more powerful they become.
Starve these the trolls, and they curl up and shrink. They can stand on top of the mountain all day on a beautiful sunny day and won’t get one lightning strike. Next time you feel anger boiling up inside of you. Don’t engage. Redirect that energy into something constructive. You’ll starve the nasty beasts and build something great.
Work hard every day. Turn up and go deep on stuff, but don’t ignore what brings you joy and what you are proficient in. Listen for feedback. Do people want to work with you again, is it satisfying, is it valued, are you proud of the product?
Double down where your proficiency and joy intersect. There’s no point working away at something in a mediocre way that makes you miserable.
Use what talents you possess, the woods will be very silent if no birds sang there except those who sang best – Henry Van Dyke
Change the question from ‘what can I get?’ to ‘what can I offer?’ Do it every morning you wake up and try to start every interaction in this frame of mind.
Most people undertake a project with an illusion of how much time and effort it will entail. Sooner or later they become disillusioned. That’s actually good news. Disillusionment means that they are ready to start making decisions grounded in reality.
Being disillusioned doesn’t make you a pessimist…it makes you a realist. There’s a big difference. A realist sees things as they are and then makes a decision. Give me a tenacious realist over a delusional optimist any day.
Don’t confuse illusion with vision. Illusions are fun and sometimes even inspiring but they are also deceptive because they create a false impression of realty…that’s dangerous territory.
Next time someone asks if you are pessimist or a optimist, tell them you are neither…tell them you are a realist.
“The pessimist complains about the wind; the optimist expects it to change; the realist adjusts the sails.” William Arthur Ward