Vampires suck on you constantly. The more distracted you are the better it is for them.
It’s the monthly subscription you pay for but never use, the unread book that sits on your bedside table, and people with their own agendas requesting time and attention. These things drain you over time and suck up your energy. The constant pull builds up resentment in you and the result is anger and frustration.
It’s hard to say no to people when you don’t have a yes to something else. Free up space to spend time on your own goals and dreams. Once you’ve simplified and clarified “your way” then it’s easier to see the vampires because the clutter is removed.
Taking time out, sitting still and breathing is like garlic and silver bullets. Do it every day.
Physical pilgrimages are important. I used to think that viewing something digitally was enough and that being there physically didn’t matter, but I’ve learned through traveling that being there physically can accelerate a connection to people and places.
Smells, sounds, people and places all trigger feelings that should be acknowledged and processed. There are places where the energy is palpable like airport arrival halls, Yosemite National Park or returning to the town I was born. In other places the energy needs to be stewarded, nurtured or repaired..maybe it’s been drained or sucked on by too many people or it’s been a place of suffering or pain. It’s hard to feel it without physically being there.
It can’t be experienced remotely via digital doors like Facebook, FaceTime and Skype. Digital connections build relationships and we are more compassionate and connected because of them, but physically being in the place is a different level. It’s about resonating with the frequency of the place and in turn having it resonate with you.
Carve out the time and travel. It stimulates growth in you, and in the people and places you visit.
From time to time I’ll be posting a guest piece. Today’s post is by Bill Gordon. Bill is a friend, mentor and soon to be my kiteboarding coach (he doesn’t know that yet). Thanks Bill.
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Every month I meet with a small group to focus discovering for each of us what is our purpose and mission and why we are here in this world?
Being practical people we also talk about how that relates (if at all) to “being successful” and the normal financial commitments we all have for such things as monthly house payments, utility and car payments, taking care of our families, etc.
After many useful discussions, and books, and journaling, I haven’t made as much progress as I’d like. However, this week I heard a talk from a man named John Ortberg who’s insights I found useful. I wanted to share these in case they help you get any closer to clarity around your mission and purpose.
The idea that I took away from the talk was that finding our Mission or Purpose has to do with finding the intersection of 5 key things. The 5 things are:
- Passion – what fires you up? Is it injustice, education, hunger, sickness/health, helping people grow, making people happy, something else…
- Gifts – what gifts do I have? Everyone has gifts to offer. Hospitality, administration, organization, encouragement, communication, teaching and many more.
- Scars – where have I been hurt? How can I use this experience or pain to inspire me to help others? The knowledge and experience of the pain will equip us to help others and will inspire our passion.
- Partners – Finding a person or people who share a similar mission or who may want to be part of your mission.
- Need – where is there a need in the world? Where is there need around me? Where is there pain or annoyance or frustration that needs to be solved?
If you’ve been keeping a list of thoughts and ideas on where you might like to focus your time and energy, run those ideas through this list of 5 items to see if there is an answer around the 5 that makes sense to you (and if you haven’t been keeping a list, I encourage you to start).
I hope this gets you closer to finding your path and purpose!