It’s easy to know if you have an instant chemical connection with a colleague at work, parent at your kid’s school, or a neighbor who just moved in. The conversation flows, you relax around each other. Humor is key and you’ll find you are looking at life through the same lens and parables. If do you dig a bit deeper you’ll find a shared value system underneath. these are the people you want to work with and spend time with

When you meet someone who is the opposite of this, the worst thing you can do is force the relationship. Whether it’s at work, dating or friendship. Ask yourself whether you could sit together on a 5 hour day flight. If the answer is no then be honest with yourself and let it go.