Time for some overdue change

It is time to make some changes. It’s time to make some big changes that won’t wait any longer.

I’ve been thinking a lot over the last week about the opening to a Robert F Kennedy speech.

Kennedy’s Day of Affirmation Address (known as the “Ripple of Hope” Speech) was given to National Union of South African Students members at the University of Cape Town, South Africa, on June 6, 1966 during the middle of Apartheid.

My father attended the University of Cape Town and listened to the speech in person in Jameson Hall on the university campus. He still talks about it 56 years later.

DAY OF AFFIRMATION ADDRESS

Mr. Chancellor, Mr. Vice Chancellor, Professor Robertson, Mr. Diamond, Mr. Daniel, Ladies and Gentlemen:

I come here this evening because of my deep interest and affection for a land settled by the Dutch in the mid-seventeenth century, then taken over by the British, and at last independent; a land in which the native inhabitants were at first subdued, but relations with whom remain a problem to this day; a land which defined itself on a hostile frontier; a land which has tamed rich natural resources through the energetic application of modern technology; a land which was once the importer of slaves, and now must struggle to wipe out the last traces of that former bondage. I refer, of course, to the United States of America.

Robert F. Kennedy , University of Cape Town, South Africa, June 6, 1966

Please read the or listen to the full speech here

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Do the work

Life is like a video game. You only get to move to the next level when you master the level you are on. Each new level has a higher degree of difficulty. More difficult challenges get thrown at you, and there’s more work and learning. You’ll backslide and get frustrated, but that means you are on the right track. It means you are growing.

To grow, you have to do the work!

In life, doing the work means confronting your anger, fear, and prejudices that are activated when things get hard and the pressure is on.

Anger, fear, and hate are a cover for sadness and trauma. When you are ready, be brave and courageous. Go deep, and explore your anxiety. Seek out the sadness.

Finding sadness is like striking gold. It means you are on the right path. But this path is narrow and full of danger. It will be tempting to run away and hide.

Now comes the paradox. You can’t fix the sadness on your own. So what do you do? The more you try to repair, ignore, distract, and control your grief, the harder it gets.

So, when you are done fighting and running away, when you are exhausted, and at the lowest of the low, then it’s time for the magic. It’s time to surrender and ask for help. It’s like in those martial arts movies where the Kung-fu master breaks down the student until the student forgets what he has been taught and is ready to listen and learn. When the student is ready, the teacher will appear.

The door unlocks when you surrender and stop trying to control everything. That’s when the love and light come in. Love has been there all along, but you need to be willing to open the door.

In that surrender comes the healing. And the way to heal is to love and help others and be in service to the greater good. It doesn’t help sitting on a hill meditating, you’ve got to roll up your sleeves and serve others.

Look for guides, sherpas and teachers along the way. They are waiting for you with signposts and broad shoulders. They know the way up the mountain and have come back down to help you. I’ve had many very patient teachers and guides who helped me in ways I’ve seen and not seen.

Start doing the work and show us the way.

“To love another person is to see the face of God.”

Victor Hugo
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Tinker, build, fiddle, and experiment

Tinker, build, fiddle, and experiment. Get your head out of the theory and into the practical.

Have a bias towards action. You will quickly learn if you like something or not.

Are you thinking of moving to a new neighborhood or town? Get an Airbnb and stay the weekend and walk through the main street.

Are you thinking about buying a new car? See if you can rent one for the weekend and give it a proper test drive.

Are you thinking about starting a new hobby like cycling, surfing, kiteboarding, fishing, or golf? Rent some equipment and give it a spin.

Once you’ve scratched the itch, you’ll get some authentic feedback, and you’ll know if you want to commit more time and money. The trick is starting small with a low commitment. It’s less intimidating, and it gets you going and saves you time if it’s not for you.

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Lightning in a bottle

Dolly Parton wrote ‘Jolene’ and ‘I Will Always Love You’ in one Day in 1972. Brilliance and genius is not a function of hours behind a desk, it’s about catching lightening in a bottle when it strikes.

Find a job or career, where you don’t have to pretend to be busy. On some days you might have to crank the whole day, and other days might be filled with a lot of space and nothingness.

Space and downtime is good because you get to think, listen and commune.

p.s. Dolly Parton is not an overnight success. Writing those songs in one day is a byproduct of hard work, persistence, patience and raw talent. There are no free lunches 🙂

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Moving fast doesn’t have to come at the expense of quality or long term progress

Moving fast doesn’t have to come at the expense of quality or long term progress.

Make small moves and correct mistakes quickly.
Avoid irreversible decisions, so when you change your mind, you don’t have to start from scratch.

The quicker you learn and adapt to reality, the better.

Check your ego and listen to feedback. But you only get that feedback if you put yourself out there. Thinking about doing something while you are in the shower is different from being out there in the dirt.

When you are starting out, act as a field mouse foraging for food while the owl is hunting. Stay alert, be nimble, and use your size and speed to your advantage. Stack up the small wins and then take cover. Repeat and build momentum over time: the more forward momentum you have, the more significant the outcomes.

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Safety Blankets

“Nothing is more desirable than to be released from an affliction, but nothing is more frightening than to be divested of a crutch. ”

James Baldwin

What is your safety blanket?

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Risk free glimpes

“I am not young enough to know everything.”

Oscar Wilde

Sometimes being young and ignorant is the best state of mind to start a business, emigrate, quit your job, sail around the world. If you knew all the risks and peril ahead of you, then you probably wouldn’t start.

The upside of age and experience is that you skip the upfront thrash of mistakes and false starts.

The downside is that you know where all the problems are, so you don’t leap until there’s limited downside. Unfortunately those risk free moments are scarce.

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You gotta hang around the hoop if you want to score

The older I get the less credit I give myself when things go right. I’m not as hard on myself when things go wrong. Good luck has played a huge role my life.

Outcomes in life are super random. The 2020 pandemic is a good reminder. In 2019 nobody saw it coming or was prepared for the global impact. In the aftermath some people have thrived and others have suffered. Excellent travel companies like AirBnb are in major pain, while video conferencing companies like Zoom are at all time highs. NOBODY SAW THIS COMING.

I’m happy to give myself credit when I’ve taken action and followed through on a decision or started something. I might not control the outcome, but at least I’m in the game and moving forward.

You gotta hang around the hoop if you want to score.

“At the moment of commitment, the entire universe conspires to assist you”

Johann Wolfgang von Goethe
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