Sycophant moats 

Some people surround themselves with a claque and never hear the truth. The politicians and celebrities who do this are easy to spot because they are under the klieg lights in the public domain. An objective observer sees it immediately. It’s cringeworthy because the people inside the bubble think it’s completely normal.

When the truth does catch up with them, and it always does, they refuse to believe it or melt down and replace the messenger with a loyal sycophant comrade.

A moat of sycophants creates an impenetrable reality distortion field. Truth is the only antidote. Don’t be an enabler. Speak truth to power or go spend your time elsewhere.

Live and work with people who hold you accountable, and are quietly confident enough to tell you the truth.

Movers and Stayers

There are certain towns and cities that are welcoming and growing. The place immediately hits the right notes and I feel a familiar frequency resonate through my bones.

These places have a common theme: the citizens have chosen to live there or move there. There’s an abundance mindset and an air of optimism. The assumption is that people are default good and there’s more than enough to go round. I can almost hear them saying ‘Come on in, the water is great!’ Uprooting their lives and moving to a new place takes guts…it’s scary. A trait among newcomers is that they overcame the fear of the unknown and took the plunge. Those are the kinds of gutsy, courageous and welcoming people I encounter.

The opposite are places where people feel trapped or locked in. There’s a scarcity mindset. People are holding on tight to what they’ve got, its unwelcoming and unfriendly. Strangers aren’t welcome and the default assumption is that new people are here to take and not contribute. I suppose that dying or failing companies are the same way.

It’s a consistent pattern wherever I go. Are people living or working there because they choose to, or are they trapped or too fearful to leave?

Listen to your gut. The next time you get the scarcity mindset feeling, it’s worth exploring. It’s a big red flag about the core constituency of any place.

Wisdom from Bill Gates

My take on Bill Gates’ tweet storm advice:

Intelligence comes in many forms

Always be learning

Be aware of inequity in the world and be the change you want to see. Do it locally or globally.

Measure happiness by whether people close to you are happy

Make a positive difference in other peoples lives

Spend time with people that push you to be a better person

The world is getting better, but there’s more work to do, start now.

It is an amazing time to be alive

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Simple complexity 

Simple ➡️ Complex ➡️ Simple ➡️ Complex ➡️ Simple

Most things look simple from a distance. But until you understand the complexity, you can’t fully appreciate the simplicity. Go deep, get detailed and immerse yourself. There is simplicity and beauty on the other side of complexity.

Persistence and compassion are underrated

These lines in the NYT Michael Bloomberg interview resonated with me. It covers what I think is important. Persistence, compassion and hard work.

Who Gets the Job

What disturbs me is you talk to kids applying today and they invariably say, “I cured cancer, I brought peace to the Mideast.” Spare me. How about, “My father never existed, my mother is a convicted drug dealer. I worked three shifts at McDonald’s.” That’s the kind of kid I want — with an ethic of taking care of his family — because then he’ll take care of others. Some of us don’t have much prenatal intelligence, but nevertheless go out and try and have a decent chance of surviving. I’m not the smartest guy in the room, but nobody’s going to outwork me.

And he doesn’t look in the rear view mirror.

What I Would Have Done Differently

Given the way things turned out, nothing.

It’s a great interview. Read the rest here.

Work with clever and kind people

Work with clever people who are kind. Look for them, stay close to them, and learn from them.

Be weary of clever people who are unkind. Keep your distance and handle with caution.

Clever and kind people nurture and grow powerful communities of trusted friends who in turn connect and amplify those connections. Be part of that community. It’s powered by kindness and it’s evergreen.

Look for clues 

Listen to your gut when making big decisions. Be on the lookout for clues along the way. Clues are markers confirming that you are on the right path, or sometimes the wrong path. Be aware of your senses. Listen, smell, look, touch and taste. Maybe it’s an email, a chance encounter, a tweet, a news event or a change in the weather. Making a decision starts a sequence of events that are easy to spot when you start looking.

“Once you make a decision, the universe conspires to make it happen.”

–  Ralph Waldo Emerson

Don’t delay gratification 

Don’t live a miserable life because you think trade offs and sacrifices ensure that some time in the future you’ll be happy. It’s like eating so healthy that you hate food and dread meal times. It’s like saving so much money every month that you can’t justify turning the heat on when it’s cold outside or buying an extra jersey. It’s like staying fit at the expense of relationships and friends. Lie in once and a while. Enjoy yourself – make decisions and take actions that bring you joy now. 

Of course don’t be silly – look after yourself and be kind to people, but resist the urge to plan for safety all the time. Live a joyful life, and make decisions and take action that aligns you with that joy.  

“Life is what happens while you are busy making other plans” – John Lennon