“Just trust me

Give it time

It’ll be fine

They will look after you

You are being ungrateful

They will come around

Don’t push it

It sends the wrong message

You are being paranoid

You worry too much

You’ll come across as negative

lt will look like you aren’t committed

Nobody else has that

Who do you think you are?”

These are all the platitudes and excuses you’ll hear when look after yourself and negotiate.

Ignore the noise and get the hard stuff in writing even if you burn a bridge or two.

If you get through a negotiation and someone’s nose isn’t out of joint then you probably didn’t push hard enough.