You know when you are in the flow. Decisions feel like perfectly paired joints locking together. Opportunities in the form of people, ideas and things uncloak. You don’t look back or forward, there is only now. Recognize and remember the flow feeling. You’ll know it when you feel it.
The bad news: See all the trauma out there? Conflicts around the world, suffering, spineless politicians, nasty comments on the web, fake news, propaganda, greed in business or selfishness close to home. The bad news is that all that stuff is a reflection of you. All the trauma ‘out there’ is a reflection of what’s ‘inside you’. Everything. 😕
The good news? Change yourself and you change the world. Every time something out there pisses you off, makes you angry, guilty or sad – that’s the cue to look inward and start the work. It takes discipline to look inward. It’s easier to blame others, retreat or get angry. Practice every day. 😌
This is my favorite line from The Big Lebowski. It can be used every day in any situation.
New shit comes to light every day. Accept, adapt and go with the flow man.
Listen to your gut when making big decisions. Be on the lookout for clues along the way. Clues are markers confirming that you are on the right path, or sometimes the wrong path. Be aware of your senses. Listen, smell, look, touch and taste. Maybe it’s an email, a chance encounter, a tweet, a news event or a change in the weather. Making a decision starts a sequence of events that are easy to spot when you start looking.
“Once you make a decision, the universe conspires to make it happen.”
– Ralph Waldo Emerson
Don’t live a miserable life because you think trade offs and sacrifices ensure that some time in the future you’ll be happy. It’s like eating so healthy that you hate food and dread meal times. It’s like saving so much money every month that you can’t justify turning the heat on when it’s cold outside or buying an extra jersey. It’s like staying fit at the expense of relationships and friends. Lie in once and a while. Enjoy yourself – make decisions and take actions that bring you joy now.
Of course don’t be silly – look after yourself and be kind to people, but resist the urge to plan for safety all the time. Live a joyful life, and make decisions and take action that aligns you with that joy.
“Life is what happens while you are busy making other plans” – John Lennon
“Oh! I have slipped the surly bonds of earth,
And danced the skies on laughter-silvered wings;
Sunward I’ve climbed, and joined the tumbling mirth
Of sun-split clouds — and done a hundred things
You have not dreamed of …”
– John Gillespie Magee’s “High Flight”