Is there something or someone on your mind, something in the past or a problem you are working through that’s making you anxious? The following exercise won’t answer any specific questions you have or offer up a solution, but it will help you.
Take ten deep breaths through your nose and imagine a field. See it bathed in the late afternoon sun, or maybe it’s early morning, and you can feel the dew under your feet as the sun starts to warm up the ground. Feel the breeze on your face and take note of the different smells.
Now take the problem or memory that’s on your mind and release it into the field. It’s now standing in front of you. Sometimes it’s a person, an event or both. Let the sun shine on it and release it from your mind. Don’t try to solve the problem and don’t intellectualize it. It’s free to go. Give it up to the sun and the warmth of the field. If the person you’ve released wants to come back to you, then gently tell them they are free to go with your blessing and love.
That’s it. It’s an exercise in release and surrendering whatever you are holding onto the field and leaving it there.
When the soul lies down in that grass, the world is too full to talk about. Out beyond ideas of wrongdoing and right-doing, there is a field. I’ll meet you there – Rumi
Side note: It’s incredible how many people imagine a green field. It’s a little uncanny and cool.
If you have a gambling problem, then don’t go to Las Vegas even if the best show in the world is playing on the strip.
If you can’t say no to that last drink, then stay away from bars.
If you are addicted to nicotine, then don’t hang out in the smoking lounge.
If you are trying to kick caffeine, then stay away from coffee shops.
If you are addicted to the endorphin kick from social media, then delete the apps like Facebook or Instagram that suck you in. Turn off push notifications and opt out of the email. There are brilliant people at these companies whose sole job, compensation and bonuses are centered on getting you to spend more time scrolling through the feed. Sadly a lot of them could be applying that same expertise to nobler causes, but money talks and principles walk out the door.
If there are people you follow on Twitter who spew negativity, hate, and decisiveness and in the process make you feel pretty shitty then unfollow them.
Don’t try to control these vices; you need to flee from them. Keep away from the hooks, and you won’t get sucked in. Addictive vices are seductive, so to counter the gravitational pull you have to engineer your life and habits to avoid them. Associate with people that reinforce good habits and keep you on track. Sometimes the best way to beat something is to run away.
Show me your friends, and I’ll show you your future.
Buy a nonstick saucepan. Replace it every year. It doesn’t have to be made of kryptonite or unobtainium. A new pan washes easily and makes cooking a pleasure. Throw out the old pan and rotate.
Wash the pan once it’s cooled down. Washing the pan when it’s hot will wear away the nonstick stuff.
Eat leftovers. They last longer than you think. Get tastier over time and make one meal into three
Use ghee over butter or oil. It doesn’t smoke like oil and adds flavor.
If you can lean, then you can clean
Vegetarian dishes are easier to clean up than meat dishes. The ingredients last longer in the fridge.
There’s nothing a fried egg or avocado won’t solve. Just plop it on t with a bit of salt and pepper. Same for heirloom tomatoes 🍅
Undercooking your meat is okay. Salmonella is a thing, but most meat should be on the rare side.
If you have the time, cook food on medium heat versus incinerating it on high. It’ll take longer, but it’ll be juicer and more flavorsome.
Eat early. It’ll give you more time to digest your food and you’ll sleep better.
When ‘I’ is replaced by ‘We,’ even ‘Illness’ becomes ‘Wellness.’
You can’t outrun your mouth. Eat less. Exercise more.
Pay your medical bills at the grocery store and buy healthy food.
Your metabolism slows down after 40. Eat less the older you get.
Exercise eats stress. Exercise first thing in the morning before the family wakes up.
Don’t check your phone in the morning until you’ve exercised. It’ll keep your cortisol levels down in the morning. Also try to avoid coffee right after you wake up. Drink a glass of water instead.
Eat more vegetarian meals – it’s better for your energy levels and digestion.
Stretch and take deep breaths. It calms the mind and lowers your heart rate.
Do back bends in the morning to energize and front bends in the evening before bed to help you sleep.
Meditate, even for 10 seconds. Do it at your desk, on the train…whenever you become aware of the moment. Take a break, relax your shoulders and jaw. Calm the mind.