“Keep close to Nature’s heart… and break clear away, once in a while, and climb a mountain or spend a week in the woods. Wash your spirit clean.”
– John Muir
Author: markbartels
The playful monkey 🐒
When I meditate I focus on sound as a way to still the chatter in my mind. Listening to the noises around me is a gateway exercise to meditation. I pay attention to the sound of my breathing, the sound of the city humming in the distance and anything else that makes a guest appearance like a plane rumbling high overhead or our cat padding softly down the passage. It quiets my mind and keeps me in the room. If a random thought appears then I try to observe it and watch it go past. If I attach to it and start unpacking it then I’m distracted and I’ve lost the moment. The mind has been described as a playful monkey 🐒 which really makes sense to me when I’m trying keep my mine still.
The other night I was oscillating between a calm mind and random thoughts when I heard someone jogging outside on the street. It was one of those hot and still nights – the kind where sound travels better than normal and it’s crystal clear. I heard the runner coming closer and closer and finally pass the front of the house and then slowly get softer and softer into the distance. It was a perfect illustration of how I should deal with the random thoughts entering my head. Listen to them coming, witness them as they pass by and then let them go. Don’t try to fight them or block them out, but just observe them. I settled back into breathing but this time surrendered. Taking deep breaths, I observed the thoughts as they entered my head and let them move past me and move away.
It was great lesson in meditation. The monkey mind was still there, but I wasn’t trying to catch it.
3 months down
I’ve been publishing something every week day since April 3rd of 2017. My theory is that practicing every week will make me a better writer. With over 3 months behind me, here are my initial observations:
I get a lot of joy in the practice of writing. The more I write the easier it gets.
The first draft is just an idea and it’s normally messy and long winded. Editing always shortens the piece and it’s easier to edit later on. I jot down the idea when it emerges and worry about the editing later.
My most read pieces are the ones where I show up with my own personal experience and feelings. These are also the scariest pieces to publish because it’s when I’m most vulnerable. People resonate with authenticity and smell bullshit quickly.
Twitter is a great broadcast platform, but a tweet has a very short halflife. The WordPress community are way more supportive and are a more reliable source of traffic and feedback. Facebook is a mega booster of traffic but I don’t use it much so tend to stay away.
I’m been surprised by how much I compose and publish via my phone. I thinks it’s because it allows me to write when the moment is right…and my phone is with me most of the time.
I don’t stress if I don’t feel creative or don’t have time to write. When I create the environment for creativity then the ideas bubble up. New places, travel, friends and conversations with family all plant ideas. Sometimes I won’t write for 3 days and then when the moment is right I’ll get 3 or 4 pieces out of one session. My lesson is that I can’t force creativity, but creating the conditions for creativity is way more useful.
Feedback is the breakfast of champions. I love reading comments and getting ideas back from my readers. The snarky comments burn a little but that’s part of putting myself out there.
I occasionally ask friends, colleagues and family to read a draft. Especially when I’ve hit a blocker. Sometimes the feedback kills the idea, but most of the time if helps me publish.
My ideas don’t just appear out of thin air. They are an amalgamation of tweets, books and conversations. I don’t think anything is original…everything I write is a patchwork of other ideas I’ve heard, filed away and regurgitated in my own voice.
That’s it for now.
Smarts are table stakes
I’ve had the experience of working in large corporations and small startups. My takeaway is that no company or industry has a monopoly on smart people. They are everywhere…in 50,000 people strong accounting firms, law firms and Silicon Valley startups. If I had to choose I’d say that some of the smartest people I worked with were in the large corporations. Some of these people have gone on to do amazing things in business and life and some of them have stayed at the same company quite content with their careers inside the organization and have built great lives.
The difference between the genius at an accounting firm and a genius founder of a Silicon Valley startup is their risk tolerance. I’ve worked with enough brilliant entrepreneurs to know that it’s not their smarts that differentiated them…smarts are table stakes…it’s their ability to operate in a high risk environment, their resilience and belief in themselves.
If you are sitting in a corporate job right now and itching to experiment and break out, then the barrier to success probably isn’t your intellectual ability…you are just as smart as the people you read about. Your success will have a lot more to do with your ability to take risks and then operate with that risk hanging over your head, capitalize on lucky breaks and persist when things look grim…even when every bone in your body is telling you to give up and hide.
This way of living is not for everyone, but don’t let fear of the unknown stop you from experimenting.
Relax
You have arrived
Uitwaaien
Uitwaaien is a Dutch word which means to walk in the wind. Taking a breather in nature to clear your head and lift your spirits.
A walk through the bush is better than the caffeine injection from coffee or the endorphin kick of exercise.
Take a walk in the wind and step into nature, but just remember to leave something behind.
9 exercise, dieting and sanity tips – Part 2
I received a lot of feedback on my 9 exercise, dieting and sanity tips, so I decided to pontificate some more on the topic. I’m planning on turning these daily musings into a book, so this will be in the Mind / Body / Spirit section…which is basically the whole book! 😛
Here goes:
Eat slow cooked oats in the morning – prep them the night before in a slow cooker. The downside is that you have to clean the pot every day, but they are way tastier than instant oats…so you’ll keep doing it. Oats is a blood sugar stabilizing way to start your day and a full portion will see you through to lunch.
Write down positive mantras, be specific and say them out aloud daily. Use the notes app on your phone as a way for easy access. Keep tweaking them – it’s a fun dream boarding exercise and the list will hold you accountable. If you are brave then share them with your close friends and family – they will also hold you accountable.
Unfollow complainers, negative people and cynical people on Twitter, Facebook and Instagram.
Only follow people on Facebook who are proximate. It’s not normal to be reading about someone you went to school with and haven’t talked to in over a decade.
Twitter is like the Ring of Sauron. If you get too close and don’t treat it with respect then it’ll consume you. Twitter is a powerful source of knowledge and wisdom, but it’s also filled with hate and darkness. Handle with care, choose wisely who to follow and mute the negativity. Don’t get sucked into the manufactured outrage and hot takes…Twitter can turn into a Kangaroo court very quickly which is unfair and cruel.
Don’t watch cable news…ever. It’s not news, it’s unhealthy entertainment masquerading as news. Breaking news is commoditized, it’ll find you if it’s important enough. If you have a healthy, hand picked list of people you follow on Twitter then you’ll get the knowledge you need versus the unhealthy news firehose.
Build up a rainy day fund of credibility with people you work with…so when the shit hits the fan or you drop the ball on something – you have a credibility cushion. If you are running hard and moving fast then the shit will hit the fan and you will drop the ball at some point.
Listen more, talk less and pause before you respond to a question.
The Nutribullet is the best and only juice blender you should use. People give up on juicing because the set up and washing up is such a hack. The Nutribullet makes it super easy to throw in some fresh fruit, veggies and water and get it done in under 5 minutes. I drink the juice from the same blending cup and the blades are safe and easy to clean. No fuss, no mess. Set it up at night before you go to bed so the morning is a like a well oiled machine.
Change your intention
Whatever you are doing, take the attitude of wanting it directly or indirectly to benefit others.
— Pema Chödrön
woulda, coulda, shoulda
Do you ever look in the rear view mirror and re-litigate decisions in your head? The “woulda, coulda, shoulda” shtick. Most of the time it’s not a productive exercise, but it can be enlightening if you use it as a barometer to asses your tolerance for risk and openness to learn.
As you push the envelope you are going to make mistakes. Slip ups are part of being out of your depth and wading into new space. I’d argue that a life of zero defects probably means you aren’t experimenting enough.
Experimenting and trying new things means giving up some of the outcome control, but it also accelerates learning and exercises your risk muscle.
Look back and learn.
Where are you standing? On the edge or in the center?
Staying in the center is safe. It’s stable and you have your footing. Shuffling out to the edge will get your stomach into knots and make you sweat – even if it’s ice cold. That feeling in your stomach is called risk.
It’s a different view of the world out there but you can only see it on the edge…and that knot in your stomach is why most people don’t venture out. I don’t think that feeling ever goes away – but it’s worth it and there’s no going back.